This was a rant post. But after ranting, I didn’t really think it matters anymore. So I am going to strike away the original content.
在okc认识一个男生,和他辗转的从whatsapp 到通电话。
自始自终我都保持很中立只有交朋友的心思。
对方多次‘进攻’,而为了证明他是不是真的有心的,我想最直接的方式还是得见面。
老实说,外表至少是我遇见最好的一个。但是品格差透了。
见面后从每天的一通电话变成了无声无息。我多少也心知肚明。
但我却打从心底希望他不是这样的一种人。
于是我试探了。而果不其然,他避我唯恐不及。
我的心脏再怎么强也会受伤。其实更多的是生气。我招谁惹谁了?
从一开始我的立场明确,你自己瞎兴奋就算了,有必要把我当成好像一开始是我缠上你,见面后也会缠上你的那种人吗?
即使我从来没有期待,即便我从来就不奢望,但我的自尊心还是被打击到了。
好在的是,生气归生气。我也并不是看不开的人。
删掉所有通讯内容和封锁所有和他有关的通讯管道 (至少不会看到就来气)。
所以如果你是男生,请你在见面了以后才决定是不是应该对女生说出有好感的这种话。
见面以后如果没有兴趣,请友善的表态,不要把别人当作是瘟神,唯恐避之而无不及。(除非她真的缠上你)
女生开放后院并不是让你进来随便乱撒野后就逃之夭夭 然后让我们自己收拾你留下来的一片狼藉。
起码你要懂得在撒野后,整理清楚后再走。我觉得这个是男生应该要有的一种风度。
Updated @ 30 June:
而后,事情峰回路转。这位仁兄说是误会一场并为了自己的MIA给了一个听起来合理的理由。
所以基于benefits of doubt, 我就半信半疑咯。当初的热衷却已经减去大半了。
Updated @ 2 Jul:
I was reading a passage about how a guy hack okc via mathematics method. I agreed on one of the stuff in the passage.
People are much more complicated than their profiles. The way we met was kind of superficial, but everything that happened after is not superficial at all. It’s been cultivated through a lot of work.
Knowing someone is far too hard. It requires a lot of effort, which sometimes I am unsure whether if he is worth to invest my time on. It takes two hands to clap. But if one party doesn’t want to make the move, it is simply not getting anywhere. Perhaps, it is best to move on and look ahead.
“Knowing someone is far too hard.” Actually even frens for 10 yrs, I still realized we dunno each other. To me, people changed, doesn’t mean for the better or worse. But things one likes, things one focuses on changes as we aged. Sometimes even the way one reacts to an issue changed according to the work environment he/she is being exposed to for a long period of them.
Add on:
I also met people disappear after the first date and prior to the date he also expressed deep fonder to me. 后来会发现,见多不怪。
People change becoz we have to in order to adapt. I can’t expect people stay the same too. Well, in any case, I cut him loose. As to why, please c latest post. In short, mai waste our time la. Lol,